Deleting
tasks means deliberately deciding not to do them at all. Take a hard look at
every item on your to-do list and ask yourself: “What is the worst thing that
would happen if this task or project weren’t done? Would my life change drastically?
Would anyone else be irreparably hurt?” If the answer is no, cross it off your
list. Let go of the obligation and guilt of tasks you will never get to anyway,
and free your energy for what truly matters most.
More
often than not, the act of eliminating tasks involves saying “no” to other
people. If it is hard for you to say no, you will always end up doing things
you don’t really want to. You have to learn how to balance doing things for
those you care about while still honoring your own priorities....
Excellent article, Julie. I'm always preaching to my clients/readers to learn to say "no." Adults with ADHD have a particularly hard time with that, so it's great to see you write about it here.
Terry Matlen, ACSW
www.MomsWithADD.com
www.ADDconsults.com
I, too, am resistant to saying no because I like to be thought of as helpful and dependable. Perhaps I need to polish my method or verbiage. I will work on that.
